
Tremendous post by Riverdaughter:
I've thought a lot recently about the way the nation changed after 9/11. What I think affects me most is the way children in this country have been raised in the wake of 9/11 but I have to be honest with myself and admit that those changes were already upon us. 9/11 just accelerated them and amped the changes up to 11. My daughters are 14 years apart in age but they might well have lived in different centuries judging by their childhoods. Child number one grew up in a suburban environment where children were already overscheduled to death but where she attended sleep overs every weekend, roamed the neighborhood without a chaperone, was able to walk to her friend’s house several blocks from our house and played games in the street into the evening. Child number two started kindergarten the week that 9/11 happened. Her every breath and movement have been strictly monitored by neighbors, school officials and parents of other children. Sleep overs happen but infrequently and invitations require almost a background check. There is no walking- anywhere. The school is locked up like a prison and number two child, always a couple of years ahead of her peers, bitterly complained about the video cameras that were installed in the middle school. I chalked it up to typical adolescent angst until I went to the middle school office to drop something off one day and saw a bank of monitors on the wall, remotely patrolling the hallways. It was like being in lockdown.
After 9/11, the world for children has gotten harsher, less forgiving, and not at all fun. Children get one chance to make a good impression. There is no tolerance for childish behavior. They live in a bubble. Their friends are selected for them by their parents at venues and sporting events regulated with military efficiency. Their academic success is judged not by their interests and passions but by a matrix, as if a child’s efforts can be strictly quantified in some Six Sigma model. Children who step out of line even slightly are treated like juvenile delinquents. Children who defiantly march to their own drummers are socially ostracized.
We do this to our kids because of our own fears.
I used to ride my bike to school, and then go over and play with my friends after school without supervision. Can you imagine?! That's what's normal to me. Paradise lost...
NOTE Reminds me of the idea that children always live out the unlived dreams of their parents.
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Must be regional/local
Schools aren't like that here and if we weren't afraid of traffic, our kid would ride his bike everywhere. Since most kids bus to school in the city (for lots of reasons), not many get a chance to ride, though I know many who do. I think the bigger change was with the whole child abduction registered sex offender hysteria, and frankly, I think that is subsiding around here.
Sorry, I don't fall in love with politicians. I'm not that desperate.....
Consider yourself lucky
I'm not sure where you live but what is described above is no exaggeration. As I wrote, the process of stripping away American childhood was already in progress before 9/11 but it accelerated and intensified immediately afterwards. If you want to know just how lucky you are, check out Lenore Skenazy's blog: http://freerangekids.com. And if you want to know where it's heading, rent The White Ribbon. There will be consequences.
Thanks to Lambert for citing.
Come together at The Confluence
"Pet rock terrorist"
What we noticed raising our daughter was that when she graduated from primary school to middle school (6th grade) in 2000, suddenly she and all her friends went from being the presumed innocents to be protected at all costs from all the nasties lurking around into being assumed to be sexually promiscuous drug users. They couldn't use their lockers and had to drag their (ridiculously heavy) textbooks around with them because it was assumed that otherwise they would be dealing drugs in the school.
This was an upper middle class school in a prosperous university town that is notoriously left-wing. One of those towns that is referred to as the "People's Republic of" for being farther to the left than its surroundings.
The white daughter of the county sheriff had a brick that she painted a face on and dressed up and treated like a doll or a stuffed animal. It was totally cute. She brought it to school with her, because she was still at the stage where she carried stuffed animals around with her, and was suspended for 3 days for bringing a weapon to school.
9/11 might have made things a bit worse, but in our neck of the woods, this was all already in motion. The anti-drug fanaticism (utter hypocrisy in a town where most of the parents had smoked weed and many still did) and paranoia about pedophiles were the main obvious driving forces. That and an application of anti-racism that had the effect of extending constraints/attacks from lower class non-whites to middle and upper middle class whites, rather than extending respect and trust in the other direction.
Also, a rigidity had come into the educational system. So that no-one could look at that very feminine girl (she was not yet a young woman) and see how silly it was to call _her_ brick a weapon. A lot of our institutions have become less willing or able to take in feedback and much more rigidly defensive. I wonder sometimes, how far the rigidity of computer-centered systems leaks through society. And again, this was a notoriously liberal community.
And underneath it all, there was the insecurity and vulnerability that have exploded onto the scene with the Great Let's Pretend It's Just a Recession. A lot of folks there were a divorce or a loss of a contract away from not being able to afford to live there. And perhaps afraid that if their kids dropped out the way they did in the 60s, they wouldn't have the same chance to drop back in again.
Well under way -- yes
I recall having conversations with a friend as early as 1999 about how different growing up is now. When I was a kid, we used to race around the neighborhood on our bikes, pedal down to the town pond to go swimming in the summer (it didn't even have a lifeguard), and do all sorts of stuff without direct parental supervision. We just had to be home by dark, or supper, depending on the season. Now kids don't go anywhere alone, and I'm constantly amazed at how uber-scheduled their lives are. How will they ever learn self-reliance, or self-confidence, or independence, or develop their own judgment?
The lockdown aspect did accelerate after 9/11 but it was already underway. Whatever the justifications for paranoid, senseless "security" visited on us always go double for kids, with it's "but what about the children?!?!??" aspect. It all has its roots in the same merchanization of fear, though, that has been building for a very long time.
Because the problem is not that we have too little condescension from our tribe. -- okanogen
I don't know if its the more laid back attitude
Of my Small City/Big Town set in the middle of the country, but its not really that bad here.
Yeah, we do have some of the neurotic and overinvolved parents who won't let their kids outta their sight(I've known at least one marriage that ended in divorce b/c of this, about to know two). For the most part, our fleet of neighborhood kids rule the streets and yards until 9pm. Though during the recent heat wave, all the parents took turns allowing the fleet inside so as to allow them to stay cool.
Interesting thing though, this likely would not have happened without the freak hurricane that came through Louisville several years ago. Because of that storm, and the resultant power outage, it enforced a sense of community on all of us(I'd been living there for 5 years at the time and still didn't know all my neighbors). We all pitched in and helped each other out, loaning generator power so people could charge their cell phones, cooking out and sharing all the food before it went bad, checking on the elderly, that now we all know one another and our kids play together. This happened just as the kids were getting old enough to start playing together, so it just fell together.
Now, Spawn is about ready to head to middle school, and I've already heard complaints from parents about the security state imposed on them, and I'm dreading.
I also haven't seen so much of the compliance enforcement yet, either. Spawn definitely marches to the beat of her own drum, is considered a oddball, but this is found endearing amongst her peers, whereas I remember(from personal experience)that typically such behavior is punished by kids.
He who will not reason is a bigot; he who cannot is a fool; and he who dares not is a slave.
- Sir William Drummond
Re:Krugman
Good on him, but of course he doesn't include Obama among the neocons. Still, it's always fun to see rightists froth at the mouth.
Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness
Jeepers, no one sees the black trenchcoated tiger in the room?
Columbine.
*That* made the bubble of trust shift from students to guards -- lockdowns might have been present in some schools before it, but all schools, especially high schools, instituted them, after it -- because wasn't Columbine, as a meme, a jailbreak designed to kill hostages?
Cause or effect?
Surely this trend started a long time before Columbine?
First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win. -- Mahatma Gandhi
Somewhat
I was still in high school not too long before Columbine, and my big school had a sole security guard that covered the whole campus. No metal detectors, no dress code, no clear backpacks.
Inner city schools had been subjected to this greater security theater before Columbine, but it didn't spread to suburban schools until afterward, when all these white affluent parents realized moving out of the city wasn't enough to protect their precious younglings.
Rural schools, well my understanding is that if you don't bring your gun to school on the first day of deer season, you're the odd one out.
He who will not reason is a bigot; he who cannot is a fool; and he who dares not is a slave.
- Sir William Drummond
I went to a rural high school
and actually, guns were already verboten. As well as switchblades. But hunting bows were ok, if they fit in your locker.
Because the problem is not that we have too little condescension from our tribe. -- okanogen
Well, you were expected
to leave them in your car.
And maybe it's just Kentucky. Did your school also cancel school for the first day of hunting season?
He who will not reason is a bigot; he who cannot is a fool; and he who dares not is a slave.
- Sir William Drummond
No, although as one of
the student council reps to the School Committee, one year I was charged with bringing a petition to get excused absences for deer hunting. It was rejected -- not, I think, because of anything to do with the hunting, but because the School Committee gave out excused absences for absolutely nothing.
Because the problem is not that we have too little condescension from our tribe. -- okanogen