So much for Mullah Dobson

McClatchy:

Parents tempted to treat Junior's misbehavior with a lashing from a tree switch out back or Dad's leather belt are being urged to think again.

A study released today by doctors at UNC-Chapel Hill finds that parents who spank their children with an object — such as a belt, switch or paddle — are nine times more likely to abuse their child through more severe means.

Also, parents are much more likely to beat, burn or shake their children if they spank frequently, according to the study, which is being published by the American Journal of Preventative Medicine.

"Parents get angry when they're spanking, and it's not working," said Adam Zolotor, lead author of the study and a pediatrician at UNC-CH's Department of Family Health. "If a child gets spanked so often, they just don't care anymore and will misbehave anyway."

It's the latest finding in a growing body of research suggesting that parents should use their voices, not their hands or household tools, to keep children in line. This study rests on anonymous admissions of 1,435 mothers of children from North and South Carolina randomly selected to share details of the discipline they and other caregivers use in the privacy of their homes.

Well done, Mullah Dobson! You certainly recommended the right tools for the job:

There is some controversy over whether a parent should spank with his or her hand or with some other object, such as a belt or paddle. What do you recommend?

I recommend a neutral object of some type.

To those who disagree on this point, I'd encourage them to do what seems right. It is not a critical issue to me. The reason I suggest a switch or paddle is because the hand should be seen as an object of love — to hold, hug, pat, and caress. However, if you're used to suddenly disciplining with the hand, your child may not know when she's about to be swatted and can develop a pattern of flinching when you make an unexpected move. This is not a problem if you take the time to use a neutral object.

My mother always used a small switch, which could not do any permanent damage. But it stung enough to send a very clear message. One day when I had pushed her to the limit, she actually sent me to the backyard to cut my own instrument of punishment. I brought back a tiny little twig about seven inches long. She could not have generated anything more than a tickle with it. She never sent me on that fool's errand again.

As I conceded above, some people (particularly those who are opposed to spanking in the first place) believe that the use of a neutral object in discipline is tantamount to child abuse. I understand their concern, especially in cases when a parent believes "might makes right" or loses her temper and harms the child. That is why adults must always maintain a balance between love and control, regardless of the method by which they administer disciplinary action.

And there you have it. Sins of the fathers, third and fourth generation and all that (Exodus 20:5).

NOTE If you've ever wondered why there are so many Christianist sex predators, child rearing practices like those recommended by Mullah Dobson might be one place to look for an answer. Sins of the fathers....

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Spare the rod

and avoideth the prison

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I only rarely spanked my son, and regret every time I did.

Parenting is a tough job and parents need help doing it. There is always support for spanking but very little support for not spanking. Particularly young parents get a lot of messages that they aren't doing their job right if they don't spank their kids.

If we are the ones we have been waiting for, then we have met the enemy and he is us.

Yeah, a lot of messages...

... from bottom feeders like Dobson.

So, how are ya, Basement Angel? Drop me a line!

[ ] Very tepidly voting for Obama [ ] ?????. [ ] Any mullah-sucking billionaire-teabagging torture-loving pus-encrusted spawn of Cthulhu, bless his (R) heart.

"First they ignore you, then they ridicule you, then they fight you, then you win." -- Mahatma Gandhi

What a Surprise

That parental sadism turn out not to be ok.

Who'da thunk it?

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