This is such a good piece I’m going to reprint the whole thing, and then go think about a proper response. Good on S’ville for giving this author a voice, and for starting a much-needed discussion. Bisexuals have it worse than mulatto Deep Space Nine fans; only trannies and Native American boxers can really understand the Pain.

by Sarah in Chicago

Hi, I’m Sarah and I’m biphobic.

I say such not to be proud of it, but rather to own up to it. We all have our own prejudices, so having or not having a prejudice is not what I am too concerned about here, but rather, if we are working to get rid of those we have, and particularly, how we do so.

I’m biphobic because I’ve been a part of lesbian communities for a long time, since I started to come out in my freshman year of university. Biphobia, as any bisexual woman will tell you (and any honest lesbian), is pretty endemic to the community, not inherent in it, mind you, but certainly endemic.

To a certain extent you can understand where it comes from. Being a sociologist I know that smaller communities tend to be more policing of the boundaries of a collective sense of identity, and the performances thereof. Further, oppressed minorities tend to be defensive of anything perceived as ’other’ inside their group as someone that could be working to undermine efforts, that doesn’t really share the same oppressions.

And a lot of lesbians take this position. They argue that if bisexuals want to be part of the lesbian community, they need to take the community as lesbian, and that a woman that loves men or a man needs to deal with such. They argue that there is privilege in being partnered in a heterosexual relationship, however, queer the woman therein may be, and that such privilege is antithetical to the community.  Read more